October 27, 2010

Udoli Hate . . .

I been trying to keep my composure with this bullshit. Honestly, I have been but this is my blog and I feel I need to use it for the purposes of expressing my emotions the way I choose to.

Here's the thing. People can say whatever they want about me and I'd bet money that I've heard it at least once before at this point so it doesn't matter. But let me stress that I will proudly admit that I have never hated udoli and don't think I ever will. Sure some of the drama was probably one the main downfalls udoli had but hello?! Look at the western gyaru community! It's far more catty there than it was in udoli and yet there are several girls and guys, myself included obviously, who still choose to take part of that lifestyle. And I understand a lot of people didn't like what it became recently earlier this year. Boo fucking hoo, cry me a God damn river. Where the fuck were you when all the admins constantly asked people for their opinions. Shit it almost was like we were BEGGING at one point for people to speak the fuck up but no one did and once changes started to be made everyone flipped shit and said fuck it I'm out of here. If you think udoli went to shit, then why didn't YOU express yourself to the people who were semi-in charge?

And if the only reason you have for hating udoli is because of who the original creator was, then hate HER! Not the people who joined it or the movement itself. It was a brilliant idea that needed more time and support to mature into something beautiful imho. I think the reason why I loved udoli so much is because of a few reasons. One being that it brought so many girls who I identified with together which was somewhat difficult to do before through just Myspace, back when it was hot xP. The other would be that I love my Nigerian culture. Although I have a great interest for modern Japanese and Korean culture, I'm always going to love where my parents came from and how they raised me up using their traditions. I see nothing wrong with liking multiple cultures however sadly, a lot of people like to make a big fuss about it but that's their problem for not seeing the world I do, not mine. For once I could take that part of who I was and combine it with the other parts of me that I grew fond of...if that makes sense. Last reason, udoli kept me working and made me busy! The whole time I would be at work, I would be always thinking about new ideas for make up tuts, ideas for events, contests, you name it! Before gyaru even came into the picture, THIS was what I loved more than anything else. So to hear people bash it and just talk so much trash about it sickens me. You can have your opinion but I sure as hell am gunna have mine.

Udoli wasn't a group full of random black girls on the internet who all wanted to be Asian, although I'll admit that the majority did have a deep interest with Asian culture that initially brought us together . But for those who didn't stick around to see what it was evolving into, it was way more than that. It was a sisterhood, believe it or not. When you have people like that to talk to when no one else in your life understands where you're coming from, you hold them dear. I've had my moments when all I wanted to do was spend my entire day on the website because of that reason alone. I hate to cheese up that part but it's all the honest truth. I know after this there's still going to be several out there who still think udoli's this and udoli's that, but if you were a TRUE member who never left then I'm sure you get where this entire message of mine is coming from . . .

7 comments :

  1. This was well done. "I love my Nigerian culture. Although I have a great interest for modern Japanese and Korean culture, I'm always going to love where my parents came from and how they raised me up using their traditions. I see nothing wrong with liking multiple cultures"
    I had a Amen part right there!
    The sad thing about udoli though is that, I really wanted to do it but there was no uniformity. People complained and did nothing and whenever you tried to do something new it was just like....going no where. That's why I stuck with gyaru. I mean, who knows, maybe it does need more time and uniformity. There weren't many people trying and when they were criticized, it was "oh your're such a bitch", well, you're right. The Western gal community is a lot meaner. I mean, Gyaru Secrets is ODee mean! But if you're really dedicated something, you stick with it. There weren't that many dedicated people
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  2. I used to be into Udoli before I knew of gal as well. I don't participate in the community anymore but it was something I admired for its signature looks/names and its culture.

    As far as those racists comments go about the community being only for black wannabe asians, that is so un true. If they did there research, they would have seen that there were also other races other than african americans who did udoli; there were few, but we still had some.

    I wish I would have been more into it back then though; I could never grasp the makeup and my photos were always deleted for being uzzlang ish and gyaru ish XDDD I'll always admire Udoli though

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  3. Yes, uniformity was also a big problem. There were so many inactive members and people who would make accounts on there just to see what was going on and later talk shit about how things were being run. It's just irks me how those people in particular didn't have the balls to say anything directly TO the admins about it. I for one was not approached by anyone through a pm about their concerns/issues with the site and although I can't say the same for Glee, Isis, Sukoa, and the others I'm pretty sure they had the same situation.

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  4. Ditto, ditto-- it's sad when people can't expand their horizons and see that something's going somewhere good int he future.

    I had an account on Udoli and was fairly active, actually, but between college and 2 or 3 other sites I run, Udoli (and a few other activities + websites) got cut from things I could juggle.

    I identified with a lot of the 'culture' so to speak, and its main aspects, and even when I stopped posting pics and trying to work on certain styles, I'd still comment on others' stuff. :/ Last time I logged in, though, was about a year ago, so I didn't see anything too crazy go down, sorry to say.

    And I'd recently been thinking about trying to get back into it, to. *guiltyyy* I've sort of moved on to other styles, though-- I feel like a lot of Udolis are into gal, too. (S'what I'm moving toward, personally.)

    Sorry you had to go through such trouble/are going through such trouble-- people can be.... ridiculous, for lack of a better term.

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  5. chazzzzzuzuzuzuzuzuhhhhh10/30/10, 9:16 PM

    TT^TT
    *happy you spoke up about this*

    "Udoli wasn't a group full of random black girls on the internet who all wanted to be Asian"

    I see this all the time and think whuuuttt
    (//_-);

    I wish more people went on the new udoli site :T
    I remember I always said "If you have any suggestions, please ask"
    and I made a lot of suggestions, and did as much as I could to make Udoli flexible to where people didn't feel like they had to stop what they liked all together in order to be Udoli <-
    woowww run-on sentence 0_0;;;
    *sigh* I am still udoli though =D
    Every time I shop or look at pictures, I say "oohhh, that's so udoli" >_<;;;

    "But for those who didn't stick around to see what it was evolving into, it was way more than that. It was a sisterhood, believe it or not. When you have people like that to talk to when no one else in your life understands where you're coming from, you hold them dear."

    soooo true =') <-- happy tears hahaha

    I remember when I told everyone what Udoli meant to me ... and the responses I got ... they were sooo sweet~ and I thought ~ wow ...all of these udolis are like my distant cousins that I can just chilll with =D

    I have a lot of good memories with Udoli as a whole, and 328328923829832 bad comments can't take that away

    -Chapples <-- yay udoli nickname <3333

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  6. Chapples! lol glad you read this. I was hoping someone from udoli saw this and felt less hopeless about the situation cuz i know tons of people out there are against the new udoli so i figure to speak up for us.

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  7. Im naive as always. I didnt know this would still go o when udoli is calmer then ever

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